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This is why we never have to fear AI taking our place. We only have to fear our neighbors thinking it should.

Systems- which are the non-digital form of AI, can only follow the rules and the frameworks given them. It will never intuit what is needed in a child’s situation. Only a loving and empathetic caregiver can see through what is being done to a child’s heart and psyche, and make the changes that put their own interests secondary to help the child, for the sake of the child only. It will require sacrifice. And only a loving and empathetic caregiver can talk a child through the pain of what is happening, even while they themselves are scared and hurt. Those are the things that foster resilience to get through the pain and loss while remaining mentally healthy.

No system can protect children from a loveless selfish parent that they are unfortunately emotionally attached to, but either party can choose to selflessly do everything they can to prioritize the experience of the child.

We can hope for fewer selfish parents by helping to build a less selfish and materialistic culture. But we are a long way from that now.

Systems can’t protect children from an amoral parent who is the product of an amoral culture and operating under it’s mores because systems can’t remotely understand the complexity and power of the love that is required to produce a healthy human being.

Which is why family court is hell on earth.

We need to fix the culture. Not the systems that they want us to believe can (or should) moderate human interactions. They will always be far far too blunt for the task.

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